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Honolulu

July 14, 2009

SWAPPING INSTEAD OF SPENDING TO BUY STUFF

SWAP IT! You may think I'm crazy for saying this, but as long as you own stuff you don't really need, do whatever you can to trade your old stuff at a neighborhood swap meet once a month. Sure, you can use Craigslist for the bigger stuff, if you don't mind total strangers showing up at your house -- possibly to case the joint. Maybe you can meet at at public location instead, such as your workplace -- that can be safer, especially if the security guard is on duty when your buyer shows up.

And there's always eBay. But why should that giant online auction site get such a big cut of your every sale? Yeah, we all procrastinate listing our stuff on eBay, if we ever do it at all. Meanwhile, the freight and postal delivery services raise their rates like clockwork every January, and since the ongoing spike in the price of fuel, usually in between too! Every time they do that, it eats away at your profit.

And what about PayPal? Well, guess what -- that's owned by eBay too. So eBay could be making money off your sale in up to three places: going in the front door, when you probably paid eBay a fee to list it; in the middle of your sale, when your customer goes to buy it with PayPal; and out the back door, when eBay takes its commission from you.

Next, there's the hassle of packing and shipping, and then the concern that your goods might not show up in the same shape they left in. Better know what you're doing when you pack it, or pay a professional shipper! Is it worth much? Maybe you want to buy shipping insurance, too, just in case you are asked to make a refund!

Barter is better. If you can figure out how to trade your stuff for other stuff that you want, this is always a good deal compared to spending your money to get it out that door. Why? Simply because it keeps more money in both your pocket AND the other guy's.

We have been more or less programmed in this culture NOT to haggle about the price of things, and ALWAYS to pay with cash or plastic! To make matters worse, we're all brainwashed to believe that full bags equal happiness! From the time we're old enough to stand up in our cribs, point, and say "I want it!" Clearly, this is not the way to cut costs. Yes, you will have to rethink the way you have done some things up till now. No, it is not as hard as you think.

Look at Craigslist, for instance. No, not in the hook-up-for-sex sections! Seriously, now, you can find online ads where others will be asking for trades rather than cash. Not a lot, but they're in there. There ought to be more. Lately I've even seen folks swapping property for vehicles! In Hawaii, where I live, we have a popular early morning radio talk show with a community announcements section. Plenty of folks here use that call-in time as an opportunity to trade and even give away stuff they no longer want.

Now, if we can make this loose kind of networking work on an island that has under 200,000 total inhabitants, then it has got to be achievable anywhere with a larger population base. Sure, folks on the outer islands of Hawaii have to be a bit scrappier than most, simply because many of us don't have access to some of the services that are easily available elsewhere and taken for granted by others there, such as municipal water and weekly garbage truck pickups. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't learn how to trade goods and services in order to save your money for something you really need it for. There's a reason that "save my money" is such a popular Google search request.

Many of us are also trained to think that "only an expert" can do our negotiating for us. Don't believe it. If you can split a restaurant bill, then you already have the basic skills it takes to drive a bargain that two parties can live with. If not, then take along someone who does. And pay attention when they do it, as knowing how to barter is a valuable life skill. (HINT: Ask for more than what you want, since this gives you some room to bargain with.) If you are a parent, then teach your kids how to haggle, while you're at it.

If you like to meet people, you can throw a yard sale, of course, but why not with the whole neighborhood at once? And why only once a year, the way most of us do it? If you're searching on "save my money" during bad economic times, then stay home and host a seasonal garage sale, or a monthly block sale! Maybe you can even make it across town to swap and sell at another neighborhood sale. Whatever works.

Make it a festive event if you can. Make your own entertainment and save money at the same time! Get a kid you know to videotape the event. Then you can upload your neighborhood block sale, or community association flea market, or homeowner association swap meet highlights to YouTube, so that the rest of us can laugh along with you! It's worth thinking about.




Wishing you a beautiful day,

Bill Brent


[this page last updated: 2009.07.14, 12:25 p.m. Hawaii time]


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June 20, 2009

HOW TO QUIT YOUR DEAD-END JOB IN UNDER 2 MINUTES

[Note: This is based on an account of a successful job-quitting via phone by my friend Romy, otherwise known as "Leane Roffey Line".]


closed-sign

Highly Replaceable Worker Droid: Hello, Boss?


Boss-Type Unit: Hi, Droid.


Droid: Boss, I quit. Personal reasons.


Boss: But why?


Droid: Personal reasons. You get what I'm saying?


Boss: Nothing to do with the store?


Droid: Right. Tell me what I need to do next.


Boss: Well, I'll need back your name badge and your [employee discount card / I.D. card / etc.].


Droid: Okay. Next week sometime. I'm going out of town until then. I'll bring it by.


Boss: Okay.


[Droid hangs up.]


End of resignation.


Droid's significant other: Hallelujah. I don't think I'd have lasted as long as you did at that nut house.




Wishing you a beautiful day (and a more care-free summer),

Bill Brent


[this page last updated: 2009.06.20, 6:45 a.m. Hawaii time]


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April 23, 2009

kick-a** blog recommendation

Greetings, friends and browsers of this blog --

This young man comes up with more good content than most ten bloggers combined. This excellent meditation on PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT is, IMHO, one of his best to date.

-- Despite public appearance, I am a very private person, and so I'm only going to say this once: IT WORKED FOR ME. I stumbled upon the basic principle Glen describes in this post by myself, by mistake, and through a great deal of trial and error. If you are one of the attentive few who truly knew me when I was 19, then 29, then 39, you know that I am not making this up.

-- I also believe that some of us genuinely evolve throughout our lives, whereas most of us merely achieve some fairly superficial levels of change, and never really experience what I would call a deep, integrated growth process.

To put it more bluntly, talk about personal transformation is cheap.

And very lucrative.

-- You may not agree with me on this point, and I will concede: IMPRINTING can happen at any point throughout our lives. While it is never too late, the earlier you start, the better your odds of lasting progress ... toward becoming the person you want to be, rather than the one you are told you should be. Growth and integration oriented change do NOT happen by remaining steadfastly in our comfort zones, however charming and appealing they may be.

That's all I'm sayin'.



Wishing you a beautiful day,

Bill Brent


[this page last updated: 2009.04.23, 3:05 p.m. Hawaii time]


LitBoy.com is the brainchild of writer Bill Brent. If you enjoy this blog, please consider a donation in support of my work. You can either (1) send money via PayPal to info [!at] litboy [!dot] com, or better still, (2) use Revolution Money Exchange. Unlike PayPal, RME pays 100% of your donation. It's quick and easy!


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March 02, 2008

Be SPECIFIC when you wish for change.

Here is a NEGATIVE example of change:


The last time I saw Richard was Detroit in '68

And he told me all romantics meet the same fate someday

Cynical and drunk and boring someone in some dark cafe

You laugh he said you think you're immune

Go look at your eyes they're full of moon

You like roses and kisses and pretty men to tell you

All those pretty lies pretty lies

When you gonna realise they're only pretty lies

Only pretty lies just pretty lies


He put a quarter in the Wurlitzer and he pushed

Three buttons and the thing began to whirr

And a bar maid came by in fishnet stockings and a bow tie

And she said "Drink up now it's gettin' on time to close"

"Richard, you haven't really changed" I said

It's just that now you're romanticizing some pain that's in your head

You got tombs in your eyes but the songs you punched are dreaming

Listen, they sing of love so sweet, love so sweet

When you gonna get yourself back on your feet?

Oh and love can be so sweet Love so sweet


Richard got married to a figure skater

And he bought her a dishwasher and a coffee percolator

And he drinks at home now most nights with the TV on

And all the house lights left up bright

I'm gonna blow this damn candle out

I don't want nobody comin' over to my table

I got nothing to talk to anybody about

All good dreamers pass this way some day

Hidin' behind bottles in dark cafes dark cafes

Only a dark cocoon before I get my gorgeous wings and fly away

Only a phase these dark cafe days


Copyright © 1970; Joni Mitchell


I've heard this damned song over a hundred times, and it still makes me cry.

Perhaps you find a lot of Ms. Mitchell's material just too depressive, especially if you've never been an alcoholic or an addict. Where this piece really gets me lies in that last verse. Both of her characters are stuck in the same prison, using alcohol to tack their boats against the winds of change; their circumstances only look different on the outside.

And, of course, the dissipation continues all the while; it's only a slower and more insidious form of change.

That's the plight of eternal dreamers, in a nutshell.

Nutshell = nut's hell.

And American Dreamers are eternal dreamers. Y'all know the word for it by now, so say it with me: DENIAL.

Think of it this way: W is a fundamentalist dry-drunk dreamer whose administration has leveraged his privilege to create more negative change, arguably, than any other in American history. Now, the four oldest Justices are liberal thinkers. God help us if we put another Republican into the Oval Office. Do you want to see a real nut's hell? Just wait until the Supreme Court is stacked with conservative thinkers for the next several decades. You can kiss goodbye whatever remains of your already-reamed civil liberties.

So, yes, I'm suggesting that you choose the lesser of two evils. Obama is certainly a pretty man to tell you pretty lies (after all, he is a lawyer), but he is still our best shot at undoing the current administration's heinous damages to our civil liberties. (The war in Iraq will probably continue regardless of who gets the gavel.)

Now, no one who is reading this is likely to suffer more under one or two terms of Democratic rule than she is under a Republican heir to the current nut's hell. In the bargain, we might get a couple of new Justices on the Supreme Court who will sometimes rule in the best interest of the individual, rather than the corporation. That's the real reason to vote for a President.

"Only a phase these dark cafe days" is an expression of hope and futility. Optimism or wishful thinking? We sell off the present in the belief of a better future. In a nut's hell, this is the concluding message of THE GREAT GATSBY by F. Scott Fitzgerald. He would know; he was an alcoholic. And I think that's exactly where this nation is at this orgastic moment in history. "Orgastic" is the word Fitzgerald coined to describe an orgy of spending. But whether it's balling or malling, it all leads to exhaustion at some point. And thus we are enmeshed in the big-box paradox we've built: Pandora is vast. And microcosmic.

Are you out shopping for a home in the current foreclosure-glutted market? Take it from one realtor who spoke off the record: "Home" is a high-gloss box that rusts in the rain. You can't take it with you. Remember the moral of a different song, a much simpler one: "The cheese stands alone." And the bank is where they keep the cheese. What's a bank, then? Just a big, cold box.

So more about high-gloss boxes: It really doesn't matter whether we're talking about buying a new house or a new large-screen TV. Did any of you just get reamed yet again by technology "upgrades"? I'm talking about big-box Wal-Mart's switch from HD DVD to Blu-Ray.

That's the kind of bait and switch, negative change you can expect more of as long as you'll put up with it.

Society is an addict. We've been bred for it. How long will you wait to bottom out?

Here are a few ideas to get you off the gloss and on the road to recovery:


Blog Action Day Post: Consumption


Uncomplicate My Life, part one


Uncomplicate My Life, part two



Wishing you a beautiful day,

Bill Brent


[this page last updated: 2008.03.02, 8:25 p.m. Hawaii time]


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December 31, 2007

My Favorite Resolution

Wishing you a beautiful day,

Bill Brent


[this page last updated: 2007.12.31, 4:15 p.m. Hawaii time]


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